my friend, jguy8
, wrote this for his college essay.
and it made me cry.
A hero is defined as a person admired for their bravery, great deeds, or noble qualities. For me, that person is my dad. Though he was never honored in a local newspaper or glamorized in a magazine- he is my hero. My dad passed away in 1996, and I thought I had lost my hero. My dad’s death was the hardest thing I have ever had to endure, but I learned from it– even though he may have died he would forever live on – because heros never die.
Throughout my childhood I admired my dad. He was always smiling and he had an infectious laugh, but it wasn’t until later that I learned that it was not always that easy for him. Throughout his life my dad suffered from an extreme case of clinical depression, but he waged a constant and valiant fight against it. He could’ve used his depression as an excuse to put himself first, but he never did that. My dad always made sure that my sisters and I knew we were loved, and that we were taken care of. My dad was the greatest example that a son could have. He loved my mom, and I always knew that. He always made sure that he had quality time with each of his children. He never missed a baseball or soccer game– he was always my biggest fan. My dad never dreaded spending time with his children; he never missed an opportunity to give you a “bear hug” or even the chance to sit down with you and watch the latest episode of “The Gummi Bears”. His love was something that was never in short supply.
Through my father’s example I believe that I learned how to love. My dad never ceased loving anyone, and through that example I learned how to be compassionate. His love was always consistent, and that had an immeasurable impact on me as a young child. It was then that I learned how to see past the flaws of others, and love them anyway. His love was unconditional, he loved everyone no matter who they were, and he taught me that through his example. With that example, and I too been capable of loving conditionally. Being able to love has become one of my greatest assets, and it is something that I will hold onto forever.
It has been nearly 8 years since my dad passed away, and he still remains my hero. It was tough growing up and seeing my friends develop strong relationship with their fathers, but that firm relationship was something that I had long before I lost my dad. Shortly after my dad passed away, Janet Jackson released a sing entitled “Everywhere”. The lyrics state, “Everywhere I go, every smile I see, I can see your star shining down on me.” Those lyrics helped me realize that no matter where he is my dad is looking down on me, and he is proud to call me his son. His example is something that I will never forget. He life was full of integrity and love, and I hope that one day I can do the same. Though he was only physically apart of my life for 10 years – I am everything I am because my dad loved me.